You would think that how you see yourself would be totally up to you. Wrong! Many people are influenced by media, fashion, peer groups, family, advertising and teen magazines – for both boys and girls. We often compare ourselves with our idols, heroes and airbrushed pictures where special photo techniques, effects and make-up has been used. Who can compare themselves with something that isn’t even real? Not even the movie stars and celebrities look that good in real life.
Everyone has an image in their head of how they would like to look. You might see a girl at school who looks perfect but even she would have some insecurities. Some of our mental images include looking taller, slimmer, having longer legs, less freckles, bigger muscles – the list goes on and on! We have to realize that our genes make up the majority of what we look like. We can’t do anything about our height, skin colour or body structure so we have to look at ourselves and make the most of what we’ve got.
Everyone wants to feel good about themselves and feel confident with their body. So, if you are not happy with yourself, have a think of some things that you could do to improve – without going to the extreme of plastic surgery. What is it that makes people so attractive? It isn’t always their image, some people seem more attractive if they are enjoying life! Here are a few ways you could feel better about yourself:
Recognize that your body is your own, no matter what shape or size it comes in.
Try to focus on how strong and healthy your body is and the things it can do, not whats wrong with it, or what you feel you want to change about it. If you’re worried about your weight or size, check with your doctor to make sure things are OK. But it’s no ones business but your own what your body is like – you have to be happy with it.
What aspects of you can be changed and which ones can’t.
All humans are imperfect. It’s what makes us all unique and special. Everyone has things that they can’t change and need to accept – like their height, for example, or their shoe size. Remind yourself that “real people aren’t perfect and perfect people aren’t real.”
When you hear negative comments coming from the inside, tell yourself to stop.
Appreciate that each person is more than just how he or she looks. We’re constantly changing. Try to focus on what is interesting and unique about yourself.
Try building your self-esteem by giving yourself three compliments everyday.
While you’re at it, every night list three things in your day that really made you happy. it can be anything from the beautiful weather outside, to listening to your favorite band, or the way someone laughed at your joke. By focusing on the good things you do and the positive aspects of your life, you can change how you feel about yourself.
Stand up for yourself.
You don’t have to listen to what other people say about how you look. You have the right to be happy with who you are. Don’t let anybody take that away from you.
Be confident and happy with who you are! We are all beautiful people in our own way, and we have the chance to shine and be great. Instead of fighting it, embrace your looks and make it work for you. For more information on body image or for some advice, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.